Self-sabotage can impact all areas of a client’s life, but relationship sabotage can be especially disruptive. I’ve worked with hundreds of relationship saboteurs over the years, and they all do similar things. Here’s what not to do when seeking to have a sustainable and happy relationship.
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How to Stop Your Clients Obsessing Over Toxic Ex-Lovers
Not too long ago I was asked on a Q&A call about what might be going on when clients feel addicted to an ex even though they know consciously the person is no good for them. Listen to or read my reply to hear my take on why this happens and give a couple of […]
The Role of Humility in Personal Development
Being humble (and not in the way some people boast of being humble!) is not just a virtue because people say it is, but because it is a pathway to greater efficiency and greater perception. So what exactly is humility, and why is it so important to the individual, the community, and the world as […]
How to Turn a Miserable Client Into a Motivated One
People sometimes reach the point where the future ain’t what it used to be. And if the life ahead doesn’t seem to contain what they’d assumed they’d need to be fulfilled, it suddenly seems there is no real future at all. Here I give you four ways to help clients build a sense of a […]
“I Can’t Be Hypnotized – I’m Too Strong Willed!”
Belief in hypnosis isn’t necessary to be hypnotized but, at least in a formal psychotherapeutic setting, willingness to participate is. So when someone trots out the old cliché about being too strong willed to be hypnotized, how can we respond?
The Underappreciated Art of Taking Risks
Success may be associated with certain kinds of intelligence, diligence, and certainly conscientiousness, but – perhaps more than we realize – also with the capacity and willingness to take risks. Often the greater but less obvious risk lies in trying to avoid risk at all costs.
How to Use Time Travel to Maximize Client Motivation
The brain needs a clear sense of where we need to go, not just where we don’t want to be. Beyond just creating a psychological template toward which a client can work, hypnotic age progression can provide many advantages in therapy. So how can you use hypnotic age progression with your clients?
How to Use Hypnotherapy to Treat Overeating
Here I want to give you three scientific approaches I use to help clients deal with cravings, and an idea of how I convert these tips into hypnotic procedures. Ultimately, when clients meet their needs adequately, the raison d’être of snacking falls by the wayside.
3 Curative Steps to Help Your Client’s Hypochondria
Health anxiety or hypochondria, a pathological fear of illness or even a psychosomatic creation of symptoms, is not uncommon. In fact, health anxiety may even be increasing. So what causes chronic health anxiety? And how do we help the hypochondriacal client?
How and Why to Teach Your Clients Self-Hypnosis
Sometimes, for whatever reason, you’ll want your therapy clients to help themselves either after you’ve stopped seeing them or between sessions. In this week’s blog I give you two self-hypnotic inductions your clients can take away and use immediately to improve their lives, as well as a tip to make their self-hypnosis more powerful.
